Pregnant by another man – so I need to know about terminations



I am five weeks pregnant and the baby is not my husband’s. I know it was totally stupid of me to get pregnant in a ‘one night stop’, but there we are.

The point is that I can not continue with this pregnancy. So I went to see my doctor and she sent me to a clinic for abortion counseling.

But because the appointment is not for another week, I would like your advice on the different types of rescissions that are available.

I think that nowadays a woman can choose a “doctor”; or a ‘surgical’ ending, but I really do not know what the two methods involve.

I’m sorry to hear what has been happening. Could you suggest that, when all this is over, consider the possibility of having marriage guidance counseling from Relate? I say this because of the fact that having a ‘one night stop’ is usually an indication that a marriage has some difficulty.

Now let’s move on to the question of termination. The methods used vary somewhat from clinic to clinic. But in general, a woman who requests an “early” abortion will usually be offered a “medical” termination. (You can not
insist on a surgical one.)

These ‘medical’ terminations have grown rapidly in use in recent years. Most of all early abortions in Britain are carried out by “medical” means.

The word “medical” means that it is done simply with medication, without the need for surgery. These days, most women prefer that.

And from the clinic’s point of view, it’s much easier and much less expensive than taking it to an operating room and hiring a surgeon, anesthetist and theater staff.

When I say ‘early’, I mean up to nine weeks (63 days) from the first day of the last period. After nine weeks, it is not so easy to do a medical termination. However, you are within nine weeks.

Medical termination involves administering two sets of medications, usually 48 hours apart. Therefore, you should usually visit the clinic twice.

On your first visit, you are given (orally) a medicine called ‘mifepristone’. This works by inhibiting the action of the natural hormone progesterone in the uterus. Progesterone is essential for a pregnancy to continue.

Secondly, approximately one or three days later, you are given vaginal tablets of a medication called “misoprostol”. A nurse can put them for you, but some women prefer to do it themselves. The tablets cause the uterus to contract.

The result of this treatment is that you will have what is essentially an early abortion. Usually, this happens in the home, a few hours after the insertion of the vaginal tablets.

However, you may start to bleed or suffer cramping immediately, so you should have sanitary pads and painkillers for the trip back home.

(If the pregnancy is very early, the clinic can give you the vaginal tablets immediately after the oral).

So that is what will happen if you choose a termination.